Life is unfair again for the Gallups

It was one of those days at Boston College when nothing was happening and then everything was happening. New BC football coach Steve Addazio was in the process of finalizing the process of hiring his two new coordinators, Ryan Day on offense, which wasn’t a surprise and Don Brown, on defense, which was a surprise.

At the same time new BC Director of Athletics Brad Bates was wrapping up the details of adding New Mexico State as the Eagles final non-conference opponent for 2013.All Categories

Routine stuff, but enough to keep you focused away from the real world events such as the horrific events last Friday in Newtown, Ct.

And then there came a simple tweet from Boston College Associate Athletic Director of Media Relations Chris Cameron. “Lisa Gallup passed away.”

I didn’t really know Lisa Gallup, but I know her father Barry Gallup, BC’s Associate Athletic Director of football operations. I have known him for 26 years, ever since I came to Boston in 1987.

I knew him when he was an assistant football coach at BC. I knew him when he was the football coach at Northeastern as well as the Athletic Director. I knew him when he came back to his alma mater BC as the director of football operations.

No one had more passion for BC than Gallup.  If you didn’t like Barry Gallup, something was wrong with you.

I also knew Barry Gallup in 2003 when his oldest son Darren was killed in an automobile accident.  Darren was  18  years old and the Gallup family: Barry,  his wife Vickie, Darren’s younger brother Barry and his sister Lisa grieved as the family  tried to understand the meaning of it.

Darren was the oldest, born in 1984. Lisa arrived next and then came Barry Jr. All three children were athletes, all had inspirations to attack life with a passion they received from their parents.

But then suddenly, on an icy February night, Darren was gone.

“What kind of God takes a child away from a parent?”. was a question  Vickie Gallup asked after taking some comfort that her son was in God’s hands.

The same question could  again be asked  tonight as the Gallup family absorbs the shock of the death of Lisa, after a long bout with cancer.

No parent should ever have to bury his or her child. Now Barry and Vickie have to do it again.

Barry was in New York City on Monday, working on arrangements to take his daughter home where she would receive hospice care in her final days. She never made it. She was 26.

Gallup was talking to a friend a few days ago, who asked about Lisa’s condition. As usually was the case with  Barry, he was non-committal about his personal life and problems and concerns, but always positive. Now he offered his friend some advice as he left.

“When you go home, make sure you hug your daughter, “Gallup told his friend.

It has been said that many times that life can be unfair and in the past five days we have seen way too much of that.

We see it as we see BC assistant athletic director Dick Kelley battle the effects of Lou Gehrig’s disease with dignity and a positive attitude.

Life CAN  be unfair and the people at BC and in Newtown are experiencing that now.

And that, quite frankly, sucks.

Here is the release, BC sent out about Lisa’s passing.

Lisa Ann Gallup (26) from New York City, formerly of Wellesley, MA, daughter of BC Associate AD for Football Operations Barry Gallup and wife Victoria, peacefully passed away Wednesday after a courageous battle with cancer. While undergoing chemotherapy and radiation treatment, Lisa miraculously worked full-time as a night nurse in the Medical Intensive Care Unit at New York Presbyterian Hospital and received her Masters in Advanced Practice Nursing with a special focus in Acute Care from New York University. Lisa was selected as the student speaker at NYU’s graduation and received the Rudin Family Student Award in recognition of scholarship, service, leadership and potential for future achievement. Previously, Lisa graduated from Boston College’s Connell School of Nursing in 2009 and from Wellesley HS in 2004 where she was a three sport captain and recipient of the peer-elected Senior Cup. In the midst of a grueling treatment regimen, Lisa recently completed the NYC Half Marathon and Boston Triathlon while maintaining a social life typical of a young woman in Manhattan. Lisa is the daughter of Barry and Victoria Gallup of Wellesley and the brother of Barry Gallup, Jr. of New York City and the late Darren Douglas Gallup. The memorial service will be held on Saturday, December 22 at 1:00PM at the Wellesley Village Church on 2 Central Street in Wellesley, MA 02482, to be followed by a private burial at Woodland Cemetery. Donations can be made to “Cycle for Survival – Team FabuLisa” at or 633 Third Avenue, Floor 28, New York, NY 10017.










© 2012, Mark. All rights reserved.

  8 comments for “Life is unfair again for the Gallups

  1. BCEagles66
    December 20, 2012 at 4:42 pm

    Deepest condolences to Barry, his wife and family. Hope they keep their heads up high despite these struggles.

  2. MaroonNGold
    December 20, 2012 at 4:04 pm

    How horrid an experience for that family.

    God is testing them severely.

    And let’s say a prayer also for one of the good guys at BC, Dick Kelley.

    Peace to all.

  3. Rex
    December 20, 2012 at 2:42 pm

    Good article. Could have done without that last sentence, but alas, I fully understand what you are saying. These have been trying times.

  4. jeffrey maciejowski
    December 20, 2012 at 12:57 pm

    Amen about Barry Gallup as a person……My deepest condolences to him and the family…..

  5. Alex
    December 20, 2012 at 12:34 pm

    God Bless –

    Blauds – if there is anything that your readers can do for the family, please post.

  6. pat
    December 20, 2012 at 12:12 am

    An incredibly insensitive article. Touching on the popular and heart wrenching points does not make this a good article, and it really offers no support for the family in an extremely difficult time.

    As you highlighted that Barry is in a way positively private about his family matters… you clearly don’t respect it.

    No one asked you to do this.

    You, quite frankly, suck.

  7. Fukowi
    December 19, 2012 at 9:37 pm

    Just terrible – I wish we had an answer to it all. Whoever said “don’t sweat the small stuff” knew what he was stalking about. My deepest condolences to Barry and his family.

  8. klassy
    December 19, 2012 at 8:55 pm

    Something tacky about this post.

    Respecting the Gallup’s privacy would have been preferred

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